In their prime, many men are defined by the roles they play, such as parents, partners and professionals. These identities are often intertwined with external validation, achievements, and responsibilities. However, as they transit into their middle age and beyond, some begin to experience a 'vanishing' sensation, a realisation that something fundamental has inexplicably changed. For some the experience is gradual, a feeling of becoming untethered to a life that used to be all consuming, for others the experience is existential and physically profound, sometimes referred to as 'burnout'.
The crux of the crisis seems to stem from the shifting nature of purpose. When external markers of success and fulfillment, like job titles, financial stability, and family responsibilities, begin to wane, the internal search for meaning intensifies. Research shows that 'Vanishing Man' often 'feels like a ship adrift, without the guiding stars of identity, purpose and confidence that he once used to steer his course'. The good news is that this period of uncertainty can be a powerful catalyst for personal transformation and a brighter hope for the future.
'Recolouring' represents a transformative shift in the 'Vanishing Man's' identity, moving him beyond the traditional roles that tied him to external validation and responsibility. It involves embracing new shades of self-expression, creating meaning instead of solely providing, connecting emotionally rather than simply protecting, and pursuing greater life purpose alongside professional achievement. This often brings clarity, freedom, and deeper satisfaction, as individuals rediscover their authentic selves through reflection, challenge and new genuine connections, stepping into a life that aligns with their inner values and passions.